Bats (II)

The little creatures have been located today. One quick look and the specialist told me where and how they had built their nest in my roof over the balcony. 

We have a plan to encourage them to find another place to reside. By start September, the Specialists will carefully go through and close the small holes on the roof with particular attention to the angles joining roof and wood, they will close the holes in the insulation, etc. Then they will install a small conduct that allows the bats to come out of the nest, but prevents them from re-entering. I am told that the whole process of emptying the nest will take about a month, so hopefully the bats will be gone elsewhere by the first week of October. 

However, the conduct stays until may next year just to be on the safe side.

I did purchase a spray with some liquid that is supposed to stink badly to bats and would be sufficient to get them to move away. I have decided not to use it though, firstly I might just push them further into the roof, secondly this will be a 100% friendly eviction, no molestation involved. 

Most likely the little Gremlins will find another way into our roofs next spring anyway. All they need is 0,5 cms. So I just need to ensure there is no entrance to my roof. 

My house sits in the middle of a row of 3, I have neighbors to each side of me. So ideally we would join efforts to secure all 3 houses, so as to avoid moving the bats from one house to the next, which does not solve the issue of excrements and dead bat youths on our balconies around July. 

It seems that I am the only interested party in bringing a professional in to do the job and that my neighbors would rather DIY, which is fine too. There are economic options, like establishing a net that will prevent bats from getting in. I get anxious just by thinking of standing on a ladder on the balcony and installing the net myself, so this is definitely something I’d happily delegate.

I’m told bats are more scared of me than I am of them, but I sincerely doubt that ๐Ÿ˜ŠI’m sure they are harmless enough if you disregard things like rabies or parasites or their toxic excrements, but I am not keen on putting my hand anywhere near a bat’s nest. 

I am hoping that living here will gradually make me  more comfortable with nature’s small creatures, but must concede that there is some way to go… I still have to ask my daughter to remove spiders for me ๐Ÿ˜

Bats

We have returned home after the summer break to find that a colony of bats has found residence in our roof over the balcony! 

Bats are a protected species in Denmark and cannot be exterminated. They can be encouraged to move somewhere else from end August to mid-September but only through natural means and without force. 

I should probably tell now that I am a born and raised city girl and have major rodent/bat/large insects-phobia. 

We moved out of the city when we got kids and now live 25 minutes from the center of Copenhagen in a large green area close to both lake and woods. I have gradually learned to cope with things about nature that provoke my anxiety and have become a bit more relaxed over the years. My kids will tell you that I am obsessed about tics and wasps among others. “You can take the girl out of the city but you can’t take the city out of the girl”, or something like that anyway. 

We have dealt with a few minor insect plagues but nothing like bats before. I am still trying to talk myself into opening the balcony door, and step out to remove hundreds of bat droppings on the floor, walls and windows. 

I have called a specialist and he will explain what can be done and what it costs, but if we locate them in the roof as I fear, this will be a lengthy effort and it won’t be cheap. 

We have so far counted 4 dead bat youths, 1 on the balcony and 3 on the terrace below. I am hoping that they were just temporary residing here and that there was not enough food to make our place attractive as a permanent home.  

To be continued…

Walking in Donostia

I knew that I wasn’t moving, and I knew something had to be done about it. A quick look at the Health app on my phone reveals that I sometimes walk less than 500 meters in one day. It’s appallingly little physical movement in a day typically consisting of many hours sitting in front of my computer and driving back and forth to the office. 

This is in no way the life I want to lead, so I had a goal to walk everyday during our vacation in San Sebastiรกn (also known as Donostia in Euskera or Basque language)

I’m happy to report that I walked on average 10 kilometers daily during my vacation. This was a great start, and I am hoping that I can keep myself committed to moving daily when work starts again on Monday. 

How I will fit that commitment into a busy day I’m not quite sure yet, but I know that none other than I can make it a priority to take care of my body. I feel better about myself when physically active and that is its own reward.

Mental Health awareness

A couple of posts about mental health awareness caught my attention this week. 

The first was a FB friend’s petition to copy and paste a mental health awareness post on our wall to show support. 

The second was a tweet from an American employee that had taken a couple of days off work for mental health issues and was congratulated by her CEO for doing so. 

As the CEO expressed, in 2017 and with 1 out of 6 Americans on medication for mental health reasons, we have to acknowledge the need for downtime and recovery, especially in economies increasingly consisting of knowledge workers. 

I am happy to see that (work) culture is evolving towards breaking down the barriers and stigmatization of mental illness. I hope it may become as socially acceptable to have a mental breakdown as having cancer or broken legs. I wish the levels of support, empathy and compassion were the same whatever the nature of the illness. 

Many of us are no strangers to this and have seen or experienced the difficulties, judgement and social isolation that is often connected to mental illness. 

Hopefully by raising awareness and sensitivity around mental health issues, we will all become better at reaching out and helping each other upwards and onwards instead of building a wall around the uncomfortable and the different. 

2017 Returns

2017 has brought so many blessings to my life already! It feels like a luscious harvest of all kinds of beautiful fruits after years of draught and poor crops, disappointments and hunger. 

There is so much joy in following our own hearts, not compromising our core values, living in harmony with what we believe is important, standing up for ourselves. 

Somehow we need to be prepared to lose everything and start from scratch, in order to set ourselves free to lead the life we really want. 

What is the life I really want? It is actually what I already have. The health, the family and friends, the job. Everything that disturbs that will be avoided. Everything that adds on top of that will be the icing on the cake. 

The misery of being half a human being and not being able to be myself is over. I feel like shouting from the top of a mountain: Halleluya! I am FREE! 

Money

An acquaintance made a comment that the single thing determining quality or value is how much it’s worth in terms of money. A provoking thought but unfortunately maybe not that far from the truth. 

Money is at its best when used for the greater good. Personally I think money is at its worst when it curses the people that have it with a sense of entitlement. Just go ask any Norwegian. The entire country gone from rural poor to exorbitantly rich within a couple of generations. According to one of my Norwegian acquaintances, easy money (or oil) is spoiling the country’s youth. No need to strive, no need to work or perform. Just ask and you will receive. You might not even have to ask. 

The issue with entitlement is that it makes us believe that we deserve something we have not earned. Just because. And that’s not real. Everything we have, material or immaterial, we need to earn. I know this is kind of Biblical but just consider for a moment. 

We have to earn respect, liberty, trust, love, friendship, kindness, rights, peace. Nothing is a given, but rather a result of our own actions. Guess what? Behaving like an asshole with money won’t earn you respect, love or friendship. You’ll be a rich, lonely asshole. 

That’s another reason that I find tax havens a hideous thing. The super rich tax evasors have agreed with themselves that they are entitled to their money and deserve to keep it to themselves. In theory that might be true in a system with no public services, public infrastructure, etc. But thankfully humanity has collaborated from its beginnings and evolved towards building systems that guarantee a minimum welfare and equal rights and opportunities for all, in recognition of our deeply social nature and our interdependency. “Survival of the fittest” is such a dumbass notion – knowing how vulnerable we are, and how it all can change in a split second. No one is invincible. 

In fact, the super rich would never be able to make a buck in a world without taxation. I’d even argue that taxes make business activity possible. Taxes ensure infrastructure, health, education. Everything that is needed to create value and do business. 

Applied to our personal lives, many of us have experienced having to share common goods with family, ex-spouses, etc. I guess inheritance and divorce are main life events where money becomes a symbol of the underlying feelings and beliefs we hold true about life, relationships and each other.

In those instances we reveal ourselves, good or bad. The skeletons come crawling out of the closet. It becomes about every kind of wound and disappointment experienced in the relationship, it’s personal. That’s why it so often ends miserably. 

At the end of the day, each one of us is responsible for how the choices we make about money impact our relationships. It can be an instrument used for the greater good and benefitting the largest amount of people in a family or a community. It can be an instrument of social justice and solidarity, taking into account capability and burden. 

Or it can be an instrument of power and a symbol of superiority and avid individualism/egoism. In which case the “fittest” should keep in mind that there is a universal form of justice called Karma
What goes around, comes around.

#money #cantbuyyoulove #butitcandestroyit

Seven days of Calm

Last spring I came across a meditation app and decided to give it a try as I was in need of relaxation in order to deal with my father’s serious condition. 10 minute sessions for 7 days seemed like an acheivable goal. This was my experience with the 7 days of calm from the Calm app.

Day 1: 

The construction work outside is driving me nuts…

I try to control my thoughts and focus on breathing

Female meditation guide, soothing sound of waves, sunset on the beach

I feel good…

Need a nap!

Day 2: 

I go for a quick meditation session on the bus

Session starts reminding me of the benefits of mindfulness and meditation – good trick to keep me motivated, plus I can’t jump off the bus ๐Ÿ˜Š

Breathing in – breathing out

Succeeded to shut out conversation from German and Cuban passagers in front and at back of bus

Felt relaxed afterwards

Day 3:

Theme was self-compassion

Very difficult to keep focused on the meditation

Thoughts wondered

Note to self- do not meditate right after lunch in middle of digestive process

Day 4:

Theme was self love – I need this session!

I got up at 4 am to travel. I tried to meditate on the train home, which proved to be a mistake.

I retook the session when at home, in my tracksuit and on the floor. I think this particular meditation demands more practice. The four sentences you have to repeat to yourself are:

May I be happy

May I be safe

May I be healthy

May I be at peace

And then extending those wishes to someone close, someone neutral and if possible, to the rest of the world

If everyone took this session again and again until it became our common mantra, the world would be in better shape!

Day 5 

Today’s theme was about the skill of meditation. Meditation is simple, but not easy. It requires practice and discipline.

Difficult to keep my focus on breath, particularly since I was so hungry (almost noon and no breakfast this morning) my thoughts wander to family matters. Still, the meditation guide tells me I should congratulate myself for making this session a priority. I love this Tamara lady, she makes me feel good about myself.

Day 6

Today’s theme was Patience. This meditation session was agony! I changed postures several times, I was falling asleep.

I guess I’m not patient enough.

Day 7

Today’s theme was concentration. I started the session by the lake, an ideal place to meditate, I thought. It proved impossible due to the many insects landing on my legs and arms. I decided to stop the session, that I retook at home in the balcony. It was wonderful. I’m not sure I concentrated much more but I did relax until the end. I am getting attached to Tamara, I like her voice and her messages. I think I might have a crush on her ๐Ÿ˜€

This was a good introduction to meditation. It’s easy to fit into even the busiest schedules. It might be a while before I can meditate properly and experience the full benefits, but this was definitely a good start!